2020 Toyota Highlander electrical system problems

The vehicle hesitates, stalls and has bucking leaping forward uncontrollably, on the road. The vehicle also has a very loud whining noise upon shifting the car from park to drive and back again from drive to park, at a stand still. This is a major issue with a nee car, my wife and I don't feel safe while driving in this car.

Vehicle will not start without a jump after 3-5 hours. The battery stays charged less than one day, but typically starts again without a jump if driven again within a 3-5 hour period. The vehicle stays running once jumped. Dealer service department indicates a software update may be required. This has happened since purchase on june 7, 2020. Date below is the most recent date it occurred.